A Life Stood Still
Ever felt like your life is standing still? You know that things need to change but just cannot find a way to let go and move on, all your friends are telling you that its time to move on, but try as you might, you are stuck and broken hearted?
This was the story of Avril. A lovely lady in her early 70s, who looked much younger than her years with a fresh open face and always smartly dressed. Her husband had left 25 years ago and had since remarried two times more, but still she could not move on, she had not had any relationships since he left although there were men who had shown an interest, "they've got no chance" she said.
Sleepless and Sad
Avril sought help with her sleep. She would be tired and exhausted at night but still unable to sleep. She had some arthritis in her knees and damaged ligaments, the doctors could not offer much help, she was OK getting to sleep, but could not stay asleep for long.
The insomnia had started three months ago, most nights she could only get 3-4 hours and it felt like she had been awake all night. The sleep disturbance had begun since her husband had visited her back before Christmas, he came back and stayed at her house with his teenage son, she felt she should allow him to stay as he was her children's father, "like a chump". She could see how selfish he still was and the whole episode threw her, brought up all the old feelings, she felt mad with him, but could never totally erase her feelings for him.
Then he Left Again
Avril realised that she looked better than him. The years had not treated him well, and although as a young man he had been a professional sportsman, now he was overweight and out of condition. She knew she had taken better care of herself and was proud of that. Eventually he left again and she was in turmoil. It felt particularly painful as Avril had put everything in to her relationship with her husband when they first met. He had a career as a professional sportsman and she had done everything she could to support him, she had done everything for him, and then he cleared off. That's how she felt.
"I like men" she told me "and can be quite flirty", but she valued her independence and did not want to give that up easily. All her friends had told her it was time to move on, and she knew they were right, but she just could not break free fully.
The Prescription
As it turned out, I only needed to see Avril four times. The first remedy given was Ignatia. This is a well know homeopathic grief remedy, when the grief feels new and is deeply felt. I coupled this with Phos Ac because she was so exhausted and Phos Ac is a great remedy for exhaustion. It does also have the properties of acting as a grief remedy. I also gave her some Arnica for the pains in her knees. Arnica remedy for sore and bruised pains and acts well when there is bruising and physical trauma. Phos Ac can be used when there is "indifference after constantly caring for others, and despite this care, the person is disappointed in love" . Aside from grief and exhaustion, Phos Ac is also a great remedy for post viral flu conditions, where the person is exhausted after the illness, especially when there has been vomiting or diarrhoea.
Homeopathic remedies are amazing in that they are so versatile, you can use them for acute illnesses, such as colds & flu, earache, coughs, hay fever for example and the same remedies can also work on a much deeper level, going right through to your emotional self. The only difference is in the potency needed. So as a general rule of thumb, we use low potencies such as 6c, 30c or 200c for acute or higher potencies for mental/emotional conditions. Higher potencies are 1m, 10m, 50m or above.
On the Road to Better Health
Anyway, getting back to Avril. On her next visit, one month later; she said her sleeping had improved and she was only getting the odd bad night. She was also feeling much better in herself, more positive. Her knees had become a real issue however, the arthritis and pain keeping her awake sometimes. I prescribed Calc Phos 6x, which is at tissue salt level and taken over a period of time, can help restore better movement to arthritic joints.
On her further two visits, Avril had moved on emotionally enormously. She now had a new man and had been able to let go of all those feelings of regret surrounding her ex husband. We now were working more on the pain in her knees for which she was taking cod liver oil and I recommended a supplement of Magnesium, Calcium and Vitamin D from the Health food store.
After a few more months, continuing in this way with the Calc Phos and supplements she was feeling well enough to finish her homeopathic treatment and move on to enjoying her new found relationship.
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